Divorce Advice For Men - 9 Tips You Need to Know
July 29th, 2008
Marriages are sassy, divorces are messy. They are best avoided, especially if you have kids. However, if there is absolutely no chance of saving your marriage and you have to go through with a divorce, then here are a few tips that can help you out:
1. Lawyers are in the game to make money, they’d like a divorce case to drag on to kingdom come, and if you hire such a lawyer then you’re in for a long haul. So choose your lawyer carefully ask your friends who have gone through a divorce for a recommendation. If you are unable to find a lawyer this way, then you have no other go but to interview a few lawyers and choose the one you consider the best.
2. Get your private and financial records into storage where only you have access to them .NOW! Also get a private post box where you can receive private mail
3. Cancel your credit cards and close all joint accounts you have with your wife.
4. This may sound like a strange one and it may be the last thing you want to do but keep some lines of communication open with your wife. It may that one day she contacts you and says “hey let’s get this over with quickly and get on with our lives… what do you want to settle quickly” Additionally small problems can quickly escalate to major problems if everything has to go through a lawyer.
5. If you have kids this can be the hardest part of any divorce. Keep in contact with them and make sure that they know they are not to blame. Let them know that you are always there for them.
6. The easiest thing to do is to get angry and destroy correspondence from wife. STOP! This can be your greatest ally in a court of law. Keep all correspondence no matter how trivial it may seem.
7. Be Nice! Don’t start spreading rumors about your wife or even slander her to your best friend. Things have a way of getting back to wives. If she finds out you’ve been saying nasty things even if they are true she will use it against you.
8. Chill! Don’t let your wife provoke you into being aggressive. If you’re seen to be aggressive you will lose your divorce. If your wife is aggressive towards you just stay calm.
9. Do you have a support system in your relations and friends? If yes, lean on them for emotional support.
Divorce can be a really horrible affair. There are many experts and lots of good advice available to you. Use this, search the internet for advice from people who know what they are talking about. There are several online products that can give you all the advice you need to ensure that you get what you want from the divorce not what your wife wants to give you.
