It can be quite a challenge to salvage a failed relationship. Youre on pins and needles; one wrong move and the guy or gal of your dreams could be out of your life for good.

The steps which may seem and even feel right are in many cases exactly the wrong move. Instead, you should go against your gut instincts here and take a counterintuitive path. Exactly when you feel the most like calling is when you should shut off your phone and keep your cool. Instead of pouring your heart out, keep it under control.

Just as a word of warning, these techniques may seem all wrong at first. However, they have been tried and tested and have been proven to work in many cases.

Strategy #1

The first step is to accept the situation - you have been broken up with and you need to come to terms with it. You might have to struggle with yourself at first, but acceptance is important.

You need to accept things as they are; this will let you give your ex the space he or she needs to miss you and come to respect you once again. At the time of the breakup, theyre more than likely upset with you and if you pester them about getting back together, this can sink your chances of ever getting them back.

Counterintuitive Technique #2

Next, keep from making any kind of contact with your ex. Wait, just hear me out here. Your ex needs space to clear their head and get a new perspective - and so do you. This can let them start missing you and maybe even trying to contact you!

You both need some time and some perspective. This time apart will also get you ready to take the third step.

Technique #3

Next, plan an event where you can try to reconnect with your ex. However, this is complex and there are many steps which must be taken care of in between.

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