Guaranteeing The Second Date
Before you get too far into this you need to ask yourself if you really want a second date with this person. You need to take into account whether or not you have any type of emotional connection with them. If your personalities appear to be compatible and you have similar senses of humor then you’re probably going to say “yes” to want the second date. However, if these qualities are present then if you approached them about a second they would probably say yes anyway.
If you’re coming from a dating site, your first meeting is really the “second date.” Dating websites let you get to know each other before you see face to face, and getting to know each other a little is the purpose of a first date. How to get the second date is the same as getting the first meeting.
The number one trick to getting to second date is just being yourself. Being calm allows your date to get to know the real you. If you are nervous and stammering that’s not the real you and could spoil your chance for a second date. Be self confident is an extremely attractive quality to other people and makes other people want to be around you. Your date should be able to know you as your close friends know you.
Be confident but not so overconfident it puts people off to you. In order to develop that level of confidence you must first succeed in those situations where you must exude that confidence. That’s where the problem is. If you aren’t successful in those situations then it becomes extremely tough to be confident in them. The best thing to do is fake it until you do develop that confidence. The first few times you try it you may be freaking out in your head but keep your composure and play it off. Keep anything self destructive you might say about yourself to yourself and it will work out much better. After a few successful attempts it will get easier each time.
To actually become likeable you have to be able to embrace all of your flaws and downfalls. If they happen to come out during your date then just laugh them off and move on. Everyone has flaws so you shouldn’t be ashamed of yours. Be wary that your date doesn’t focus to much on your flaws. If they do then they probably aren’t someone you want to go out with again.
Don’t worry if there isn’t a strong emotional connection right away. They take time to develop, especially if you want one that lasts. However, if you have similar senses of humor, think similarly, and make eye contact easily then you have the start of a good emotional connection.
Here’s the biggest thing: you want to end on a high note, when everything’s going well. That way you leave the other person wanting more, which is really how to get the second date: by getting them to want to see more of you.
Don’t fake an excuse to leave or you’ll seem uninterested. Rather, set a time limit at the start of the date (an hour or so is good) and stick to it. Unless it’s going really well. Then you can have the second date in the morning.