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Building Stong Bonds In The Blended Family
The new blended family faces many challenges in the beginning. Blending two families and building strong familial bonds requires a lot of effort on the part of all involved. In the beginning, the family members have no shared family history or shared ways of doing things. This can be especially hard for children who are trying to adjust to a new stepmother and stepbrothers or sisters.Below are a few tips for building strong bonds with each family member:

Support one another by being willing to listen and validate each other's feelings.
If the children are mourning the loss of their old family until, acknowledge that loss and allow the child to mourn.
Come together as the biological parent and stepparent on such issues as discipline and shared family activities.
Encourage each member of the blended family to develop positive, nourishing relationships.
Always encourage and nurture each child's relationship with the other.post continued

Building Stong Bonds In The Blended Family originally appeared on About.com Divorce Support on Wednesday, July 14th, 2010 at 00:30:58.Permalink | Comment | Email this

Mel Gibson: Love, Misery and Midlife Crisis
We've learned a lot about Mel Gibson over the last week. It would seem he's a racist, a sexist, a homophobe, and an anti-Semite with quite the oral fixation. From where I sit it would seem that Mel is also on the down-side of one hell of a Midlife Crisis.I don't think the man we are now seeing is the man he once was? Seven years ago Mel did an interview with the Daily Mail, below is a quote from that interview. It is Mel on his long-term marriage to then wife Robin."You're going to get ups and downs and you're going to get days when you really want to strangle each other. That is just going to happen. It doesn't matter who the other person is. You can think, 'Well, if I find someone else', but that's bullshit. You're going to go through the same old shit with anybody. You just have to adapt and give and take and receive and give. So you might as well stay where you're at and figure it out.'Every time that happens and you go through a dry spell - and in 22 years that happens a lot - when you come out the other side you're just so much better at it."Compare the words above to those we've all heard lately from Mel. He went from righteous family man to a man whose actions fly in the face of his previous belief system. And no doubt you've noticed the self-referential and grandiose thought patterns displayed. All typical signs of someone having a difficult time transitioning during midlife.The good news for Mel is that some do "come out the other side" and are much better "at it" whatever that "it" is. And, if lucky the wife and children they left behind will be waiting in the wings. It would seem, if reports are true that Mel will be one of the lucky ones.According to New York Magazine Mel has sold properties owned here in the U.S. and will move back to Australia. Some friends say plans are for his ex-wife Robin to also move with him. According to the DailyTelegraph, "Oksana's allegations of domestic abuse have united Mel and Robyn, and the move is Robin's idea."Whether the reports of a move to Australia are true or not, one can still hold onto the hope that somewhere inside Mel Gibson is the ability to make amends with the people who count, his wife and children who have continued to love him through and in spite of this destructive phase of life.Related Articles:Surviving Your Spouse's Midlife Crisis The Difference Between Men and Women in Midlife Crisis Communicating With a Midlife Crisis Spouse

Mel Gibson: Love, Misery and Midlife Crisis originally appeared on About.com Divorce Support on Sunday, July 18th, 2010 at 16:07:03.Permalink | Comment | Email this

Why do 66% of Second Marriages Fail?
According to the Academy of Matrimonial Attorneys at least 66% of second marriages fail. The reasons? People don't deal with and heal personal issues that played a role in the demise of their first marriage before remarrying. And, the pressure of raising stepchildren causes more conflict than the marriage can handle.I think the reason second marriages fail is closely tied to the same reasons first marriages fail. We carry unrealistic expectations into marriage and we don't plan ahead for conflict and adversity that may come up.It is even more important that no one enters a second marriage, especially one where there are children with unreasonable expectations. Love does not concur all nor is marriage a means to an end.You have to expect conflict and adversity in a blended family and you have to.post continued

Why do 66% of Second Marriages Fail? originally appeared on About.com Divorce Support on Monday, July 12th, 2010 at 00:34:55.Permalink | Comment | Email this

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